Leaders cannot evoke change in the people or organizations they lead without changing themselves first. And I hate to say it, but in order to change yourself, you need to acknowledge your pain. Your "issues" shall we say. Because those issues will come back to haunt you not only around the kitchen table, but around the boardroom table too.
You may seek to overcome your pain by seeking after something else: that job, that relationship, that new TV set, iPhone, laptop, car. Or you might try to cover up your pain with alcohol, drugs, sex, or one of those frozen chocolate cakes...every night...!
Simply acknowledging your pain, your "issues", your mother, your bully sister...and allowing yourself to sit in those feelings for even a few minutes a day before heading out to the party, to Future Shop or Dairy Queen, will help. Because the more you do that the calmer you will become. And calm leaders are good leaders.
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